Right now, my church has embarked on a 31 day fast. Before the fast started, I had a whole list of what I wanted God to do for me. I placed sticky notes all around my room as a reminder of what I wanted to see happen. By day 6, I was wondering why certain things where not taking place. I mean, I don’t expect an over night miracle but come on Jesus, my FOOD?! During my quite time, I was busy running down my list(yet again) of what I wanted to see happen and giving God a time frame. Before I was about to wrap my prayer up and say Amen, the Lord spoke to me and said “People are not disposable”.
There are time in our lives for one reason or another, people get the boot. When people come into my life I always measure the relationship and ask without fail an important question “Is this a long term relationship or seasonal?”. “Is this person meant to be a blessing to me or I meant to be blessing to them?”. I don’t know about you but I no longer want to fight with God over relationships that should’ve over and been done with a long time ago. In Diary of a Mad Black Women, Tyler Perry’s character Madea said it best:
“Sometimes we hold on to the things that God Himself is trying to tear apart”
That’s one side of the coin, the other side is this: Just because the relationship is over, this person is still a living, breathing being, carrying the memories of what once was. You see, the Lord was dealing with the fact that I had a great list of great things that I wanted to see happen(which will happen in the name of Jesus!) but before I can even get to that point and I needed to work one factor “Healing”. Healing is a two way street, we need to received healing and extend healing. I know if can be difficult because I know what it is for people to not see you for who you really are and write you off. They don’t have to say a word but their disposition alone can tell you how they view you. That alone can begin a painful cycle where the Lord must step in. When I looked through the scriptures to find if there was anyone who experienced being written off, or being portrayed as someone that they’re really not. I came across a few good men and women.
What we know about her:
“Mordecai had a cousin named Hadassah, whom he had brought up because she had neither father nor mother. This young woman, who was also known as Esther, had a lovely figure and was beautiful. Mordecai had taken her as his own daughter when her father and mother died”- Esther 2:7
Why: Although she was labeled as an orphan and had no one but Mordedcai, inside her was the ability to become a Queen and Lord used her to turn the destiny of an entire nation around.
Solution: As soon as she entered the palace her garments where changed. She exceeded beyond her peers, found favor and became Queen.
“And the king loved Esther more than any of the other young women. He was so delighted with her that he set the royal crown on her head and declared her queen instead of Vashti”-Esther 2:17
What we know about him:
“When the police reported this, the city officials were alarmed to learn that Paul and Silas were Roman citizens.” Acts 16:38
“Then Saul, who was also called Paul, filled with the Holy Spirit: Acts 13:9
“Then Saul, still breathing threats and murder against the disciples of the Lord, went to the high priest ,and asked letters from him to the synagogues of Damascus, so that if he found any who were of the Way, whether men or women, he might bring them bound to Jerusalem.As he journeyed he came near Damascus, and suddenly a light shone around him from heaven. 4 Then he fell to the ground, and heard a voice saying to him, “Saul, Saul, why are you persecuting Me?”-Acts 9:1-3
Why: Paul as an official body snatcher! Yet in him was the ability to be one the greatest apostles of all time.
Solution: According Acts 13:9, the Lord changed Saul’s name to Paul. In your name is your identity. The pen of the Holy Spirit changed his story, and the original identity of Paul manifested.
What we know about her:
“So they went and entered the house of a prostitute named Rahab and stayed there.”-Joshua 2:1
Why: She was a prostitute, one the of originals! We don’t know why Rahab went into prostitute but there nothing new under sun. It could’ve very well been due lack of financial support, her destiny could’ve been sold into it. We just don’t know. It never spoke her having a husband because later on we find that she marries one of the spies. In those times, men were the financial supporters of their families. Yet, she was the great-great grandmother to David and 35th great grandmother of Jesus.
Solution: It took someone else to see who she was and speak to it. Remember, Rahab found her man. She was honored!
“… Joshua said, “Go into the prostitute’s house and bring out from there the woman and all who belong to her, as you swore to her.”-Joshua 6:22
Jacob, the woman at the well, David, Tamar, Bathsheba and even Jesus Himself, are more examples of people who were written off. Please read the scriptures to find our more for yourself.
What are something’s we need to do in order for our real identities to come to the surface:
1. Ask the Lord to change your garments
And he showed me Joshua the high priest standing before the angel of the Lord, and Satan standing at his right hand to resist him. And the Lord said unto Satan, The Lord rebuke thee, O Satan; even the Lord that hath chosen Jerusalem rebuke thee: is not this a brand plucked out of the fire? Now Joshua was clothed with filthy garments, and stood before the angel. And he answered and spoke unto those that stood before him, saying, Take away the filthy garments from him. And unto him he said, Behold, I have caused thine iniquity to pass from thee, and I will clothe thee with change of raiment. And I said, Let them set a fair mitre upon his head. So they set a fair mitre upon his head, and clothed him with garments. And the angel of the Lord stood by.-Zechariah 3:1-5
The enemy can accuse you and be considered right if your garment is stained. Ask the Lord to remove the old and give you something new.
2. Extend what you want to be extended to you
Is it possible that you may feel disposable but you have disposed others? If you don’t want to reap rejection, don’t reject. I want people meet me that they feel blessed, encouraged, uplifted, laughed a little. Not hurt, broken and confused. I want to improve people’s human experience with me. We all should. Life if what you make, so let’s make it right.