From Work to Church

From Work to Church

Rare London studded jacket
$31 – rarelondon.com

Mango zipper skirt
$31 – johnlewis.com

Black tote bag
malleries.com

Laura8 chunky jewelry
farfetch.com

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When I woke up this morning, I heard the Holy Spirit whisper this in my spirit “If you can’t stand people, chances are you don’t understand them”. Hmmm…really Jesus? That was my first response but I had to caution myself to see the bigger picture. How many times have I challenged myself to push past people’s hang-ups, character flaws to understand them? My defense mechanism has always been “Well, they did it to me first. Why should I push past people’s craziness when they won’t push past mine?” 2 years ago, when the holy spirit began to deal with my callus heart, my mom told this “Because you’ve been loved, you have to love”. Love was a very foreign concept. I can’t say during these last 20 plus something years that I’ve never been loved because I’m sure either the following has happened:

1. It wasn’t the right kind of love

2.The love was conditional

3.I fought against

4.Didn’t believe I could I be love

I’ll be honest, I had angry-black-women-syndrome! LOL. For a few good reasons, but the love God was enough to break it. My conviction now has been 1 John 4:19 “We love because he first loved us”. Yes, we’re not God. Yes, we’re not perfect. But yes, because He lives in us we are an extension of who He is. We can’t pick and choose what we can want from the word. My lesson learned for today is to look past people’s behaviors and find out how I express and extend love.

 

 

What to wear to Friday Night Bible Study

What to wear to Friday Night Bible Study

Bench vneck t shirt
$15 – houseoffraser.co.uk

River Island black jeans
$61 – riverisland.com

Dune black patent leather flat
$49 – debenhams.com

Asprey white gold earrings
$24,060 – asprey.com

Druzy necklace
$15 – claires.co.uk

The Ugliest 7 Letter Word…Forgive

Well, it’s not the ugliest word but unforgiveness itself is ugly. At one point, I accepted unforgiveness as something “I just can’t seem to get rid of…of well”. Just as I became comfortable with idea, earlier this year I attended a Sunday night service where lo and behold, guess what my pastor was talking about? “Forgiveness” He ended the sermon with an altar call for those of us who struggled with forgiveness. Needless to say…I struggled with going to the altar. Before I knew it, I found my way to the altar because I remembered that I can’t forgive in my own strength. If I depended on my natural understanding and mental strength, it wouldn’t get done. He later challenged us and said very boldly “You can be the best Christian in the world but I’m sorry to tell you, your unforgiveness will send you to hell”. My response *Blank Stare* and an entire 4 months of replaying that statement over and over again in my head. How can something that seemed so “little” such a forgiveness send me to hell? I’m not going to lie, I was pretty livid.I later reasoned within myself “I’ve forgiven. I’m good. People are wack anyway”(an indication that I haven’t forgiven LOL). But last night I read Matthew 18 and yet again my state of  unforgiveness was challenged. As I browsed my iPhone for different translations of Matthew 18, this teaching by Joyce Meyer “Do yourself a favor…forgive” popped up:

The Poison of Unforgiveness by Joyce Meyer        

Many people ruin their health and their lives by taking the poison of bitterness, resentment and unforgiveness. Matthew 18:23-35 tells us that if we do not forgive people, we get turned over to the torturers. If you have a problem in this area or have ever had one, I’m sure you bear witness with what I’m saying. It’s torture to have hateful thoughts toward another person rolling around inside your head. 

Helping Yourself and Others

Who are you helping most when you forgive the person who hurt you? Actually, you’re helping yourself more than the other person. I always looked at forgiving people who hurt me as being really hard. I thought it seemed so unfair for them to receive forgiveness when I had gotten hurt. I got pain, and they got freedom without having to pay for the pain they caused. Now I realize that I’m helping myself when I choose to forgive. 

I’m also helping the other person by releasing them so God can do what only He can do. If I’m in the way—trying to get revenge or take care of the situation myself instead of trusting and obeying God—He has no obligation to deal with that person. However, God will deal with those who hurt us if we’ll put them in His hands through forgiveness. The act of forgiving is our seed of obedience to His Word. Once we’ve sown our seed, He is faithful to bring a harvest of blessing to us one way or another.

Another way that forgiveness helps me is that it releases God to do His work in me. I’m happier and feel better physically when I’m not filled with the poison of unforgiveness. Serious diseases can develop as a result of the stress and pressure that bitterness, resentment and unforgiveness put on a person. Mark 11:22-26 clearly teaches us that unforgiveness hinders our faith from working. The Father can’t forgive our sins if we don’t forgive other people. We reap what we sow. Sow mercy, and you’ll reap mercy; sow judgment, and you’ll reap judgment. So do yourself a favor—and forgive. 

There are still more benefits of forgiveness. Your fellowship with God flows freely when you’re willing to forgive, but it gets blocked by unforgiveness. Forgiveness also keeps Satan from getting an advantage over us (see 2 Corinthians 2:10-11). Ephesians 4:26-27 tells us not to let the sun go down on our anger or give the devil any such foothold or opportunity. Remember that the devil must have a foothold before he can get a stronghold. Do not help Satan torture you. Be quick to forgive. 

I also think it’s hard to hate one person but love another. It’s hard to treat anybody right when our heart isn’t right. Even people you want to love may be suffering from your bitterness, resentment and unforgiveness. 

How to Forgive

Would you like to become more successful at forgiving others? There are practical steps that must be taken. One time I asked the Lord why so many people want to forgive but aren’t successful doing it. And He said, “Because they aren’t obeying what I tell them to do in My Word.” As I searched the Word, I found the following instructions: 

1. Decide – You will never forgive if you wait until you feel like it. Choose to obey God and steadfastly resist the devil in his attempts to poison you with bitter thoughts. Make a quality decision to forgive, and God will heal your wounded emotions in due time (see Matthew 6:12-14). 

2. Depend – You cannot forgive without the power of the Holy Spirit. It’s too hard to do on your own. If you are truly willing, God will enable you, but you must humble yourself and cry out to Him for help. In John 20:22-23 Jesus breathed on the disciples and said, “Receive the Holy Spirit!” His next instruction was about forgiving people. Ask God to breathe the Holy Spirit on you so you can forgive those who’ve hurt you. 

3. Obey – The Word tells us several things we’re to do concerning forgiving our enemies: 

  a. Pray for your enemies and those who abuse and misuse you. Pray for their happiness and welfare (see Luke 6:27-28). As you pray, God can give them revelation that will bring them out of deception. They may not even be aware they hurt you, or maybe they’re aware but are so self-centered that they don’t care. Either way, they need revelation. 

b. …Bless and do not curse them (Romans 12:14). In the Greek to bless means “to speak well of” and to curse means “to speak evil of.” You can’t walk in forgiveness and be a gossip. You must stop repeating the offense. You can’t get over it if you continue to talk about it. Proverbs 17:9 says that he who covers an offense seeks love.

Who Should Forgive? 

Forgive the person who badly hurt you long ago and also the stranger who stepped on your toe in the grocery store. Take those two extremes and forgive them in addition to everyone in between. Forgive quickly. The quicker you do it, the easier it is. Forgive freely. Matthew 10:8 says, …Freely you have received, freely give. Forgive means “to excuse a fault, absolve from payment, pardon, send away, cancel, and bestow favor unconditionally.” 

When you forgive, you must cancel the debt. Do not spend your life paying and collecting debts. Hebrews 10:30 says that vengeance belongs to the Lord; He’ll repay and settle the cases of His people. Let God pay you for past injustices. Do not try to collect from the people who hurt you, because the people who hurt you can’t pay you. 

Also, forgive yourself for past sins and hurts you have caused others. You can’t pay people back, so ask God to. 

Forgive God if you are angry with Him because your life didn’t turn out the way you thought it should. God is always just. There may be things you don’t understand, but God loves you, and people make a serious mistake when they don’t receive help from the only One who can truly help them. 

You may even need to forgive a situation or an object—the post office, bank, a certain store that may have cheated you, a car that always gave you trouble, etc. Get rid of all poison that comes from bitterness, resentment and unforgiveness. And remember Proverbs 4:23: Keep and guard your heart with all vigilance…for out of it flow the springs of life. 

Unforgiveness is spiritual filthiness, so get washed in the water of God’s Word to forgive and stay clean. 

The reason why Jesus is not a fan of unforgiveness is because if anyone had a reason to be mad and unforgiving, it was Jesus. I use to complain to God :

Me: God, I’ve been lied on.

God: Me, too.

Me: I’ve been left to die.

God: Me, too.

Me: People have hurt me too bad.

God: Me, too.

That argument wasn’t going anywhere. If “Christ who was without sin, but for our sake God made him share our sin in order that in union with him we might share the righteousness of God(2 Corinthians 5:21) was able to forgive even the things I considered “unforgiveable”, I have no excuse!

So I’ve decided to listen to what the  Holy Spirit has challenged me to do: Decide, Depend & Obey. Like medicine, it doesn’t taste good but forgiveness is good for you. I will no longer allow the enemy to use unforgiveness as solid piece of evidence against me. Remember the later part of Matthew 18, holding back forgiveness allows you to be handed over to tortures. Christ was already tortured, there’s no need for you and I go through it again.

Please visit  www.joycemeyer.org

What to wear to Church on Sunday Morning

What to wear to Church on Sunday Morning
Love this outfit! I think it made my heart skip a beat or two! Wrap dresses are flattering on every shape and size you can’t go wrong. In the bible, purple represents royalty…no argument over here! One of my favorite fragrances is Versace, Crystal Noir. It’s silent yet powerful. I’m no expert in fragrances, I can just tell you “Honey, that’s the one!”  And if you’re like me, as soon as church is over and your on your way to good ole Sunday Dinner, you want to switch into some cute flats!

Wrap dress
willowltd.com

Bracelet ring
$23 – whistles.co.uk

Versace Crystal Noir Eau De Toilette 50ml
$74 – harveynichols.com

Let’s Talk Hair

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Ok, so I’m still really loving the braids. Which I haven’t had in yearrss! Apparently, I think I secret believe I’m Janet Janet 1996. Remember from the last post”2 words: Poetic Justice”. LOL. However, I have to wash my hair every 5-7 days to avoid a flaky scalp and to stop itching. These are some products I’ve been using:

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1. Groganics Liquid Scratch

Why I love it: A slight fragrance, it works instantly! I mean the itchy is judo chopped and stopped in it’s tracks!

2. Mizani Scalp Care Shampoo &Conditioner

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Why I love it: It’s soothing and moisturizing at the same time. It’s a little higher up on the price scale but it’s worth it!

3. Moroccan Oil, Oil Treatment

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Why I love it: I can use in two ways: Mix it with peppermint oil(please try it!) or mix it with my conditioner for a deep treatment.

These products are great for ALL types of hair. No matter what ethnicity you are, if you have similar scalp issues you can absolutely use it. Try these products out and tell me what you think!